If you live in the UK, or even if you don’t, you will probably be aware that there is going to be a referendum on whether the UK should stay in the European Union or whether we should leave.

Every day there is a debate or a discussion on what is or isn’t the right decision to make. It is exhausting, frustrating and confusing. There are politicians, celebrities and the general public discussing the implications. Why the furore? Very simply, it’s the biggest political decision people have been asked to make. When voting in any elections there is always the risk that we have made the wrong choice but at least, if we are not happy with them they won’t be in office for long. Not so, leaving the European Union. Once the decision has been made, the likelihood of changing it is uncertain and besides which, at what point do you decide it has been the wrong decision? 1 year, 3, 5,10 years later?

There is a whole stream of questions being posed.

Why should we stay?

Why should we leave?

What will happen if we stay?

What will happen if we leave?

How will we manage if we leave?

What will life be like if we leave?

All this wrangling took me back to when I was living with my alcoholic husband and I had the same angst going on and asked myself exactly, those same questions. Do I want to stay or leave? Why am I staying? What will happen if I leave? How will I manage if I leave? How will he manage if I leave?

I recognised that I had a right to a quality life. The alcoholic too has a right to a quality life but with that right comes the responsibility; to cure or alleviate the illness of alcoholism.

I was afraid to move on and didn’t know if I would cope. Trust me, if I knew then what I know now, I would have left sooner. I can assure you that you will cope, you will manage and you will have a quality life. I never said it would be easy but there is a fabulous life just waiting for you to grab it.