Do you feel stuck? Is something stopping you from moving forward? Do you feel that past relationship is still defining who you really are?

I was with a group of people at the weekend and was struck by their determination to move forward in their lives. However, for some of them, they were still playing the victim card. It’s one we’ve all played and it goes like this.

“Yes, but, I’ve tried that and it just doesn’t work for me”

“Oh, it’s ok for you. You haven’t been through what I’ve been through”

Sound familiar? If you want to make changes in your life and move forward then you have to stop playing the victim. Only you can make the necessary changes.

In response to the above statements;

“Yes, but, I’ve tried that and it just doesn’t work for me”

OK, if that doesn’t work for you, then try something else

“Oh, it’s ok for you. You haven’t been through what I’ve been through”

How many male obstetricians have delivered a baby? Do you need to have experienced someone else’s pain or problem to understand it or offer support? The answer is no.

It’s easy to play the victim because it gives you a reason to not make any changes. Making a change is much harder to do than nothing. Do you want keep playing that victim role? Listen to yourself, to what you are saying to yourself and other people. Stop playing the victim and move forward.